Ética / Ethics

Eu estou abrindo um novo negócio e tenho estado a mil por hora com reformas, contrataçoes, burocracias mil e reformas. No meio desse corre-corre, fornecedores ficam batendo na minha porta, tentando vender seus produtos.
Segundo o nosso contrato de franquia, o meu fornecedor de alimentos é a Sysco. Logo no primeiro dia, recebi a visita do meu vendedor, nós estabelecemos uma otima relação profissional e ele tem me ajudado desde então.
Duas semanas depois, aparece um cara na empresa. Um sujeito estranho, que parece estar maquiado. Nada de drag queen, mas uma maquiagem leve, para realçar o rosto ( sim, estou falando de um cara, não me enganei!).
Ele também trabalha na Sysco. Eu o recebi educadamente, disse que já trabalhava com outra pessoa , e ele me respondeu:
- Eu tenho mais experiencia nessa área, sou melhor que ele. Você tem que ligar para a Sysco e pedir para mudar de representante.
Nem pisquei:
- Claro! Só o que eu preciso fazer é dar uma facada nas costas dos eu colega de trabalho que tem me atendido tão bem! Me dá o numero...vou fazer isso agora mesmo!


Cada figura que me aparece...


I am opening a new business and I am going crazy with renovations, contracts, , bureaucracies in general . In the midst of this hustle and bustle , suppliers are knocking at my door , trying to sell their products .
According to our franchise agreement , my food supplier is Sysco . On the first day , I was visited by their salesman, we have established a good working relationship and he has helped me ever since.
Two weeks later , another guy from Sysco shows up . A strange guy, who seems to be wearing makeup . Nothing drag queen like , but a light makeup nonetheless (yes , I'm talking about a guy , working, visiting clients at day light ) .
I was polite , said I had already set up my account and was working with someone else. His reply :
- I have more experience in this area , I am better than him. You have to call and ask to change your Sysco representative, so I can help you.
I did not even blink :
- Of course ! All I need to do is back stab your coworker who has been very efficient and friendly ! Give me the number ... I'll do it right now !



Hope he got the message ...

TRAICAO/ BETRAYAL

A friend of mine, married for almost 20 years, found out her husband was cheating on her. On the phone, I did everything i could think, to comfort her, until she said:

- Inaie, he has been cheating on me with this woman for 12 years now. But what really hurts me, is the fact that she is not educated at all. She even says : POBREM, instead of PROBLEM... How can I forgive?

After careful consideration, I had to agree -  no forgiveness for him!!

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Uma amiga minha, descobriu, depois de quase 20 anos de casada que o marido a estava traindo. Tentei de tudo para conforta-la, ate que ela solta:

- Inaie, ele me trai ha 12 anos...mas isso nao e nada. O pior de tudoe  que a fulana fala POBREMA! Ai nao da pra perdoar, ne?

Tive que concordar. Nesse caso, perdoar nem pensar!!!

Betrayal

Today I was surfing the blogsphere when I found a blog ( I am sorry, in Portuguese), discussing fantasies and betrayal. It says it is Ok to have fantasies, that everyone has them , but to act on it is a whole different story, and then it talks about relationships, commitment and respect. well written, and it made me think.

In the past it would be easy to get me excited, defending impalement as a fair punishment for betrayals. the time passed, I believe I met more people, heard more stories, witnessed different life stories and saw two different sides to the story.

I saw women who forgave the cheating husband to protect the family, some " forgave" to protect the patrimony, some just because they saw no way out.

I saw people who could not stand it, suffered, cried, made scenes, one even danced with huge heels ( mine) on top of her husband's car. My shoes and the car were never, ever the same after that...

My questions after reading that post were about the definition of betrayal. What is cheating?

Is thinking about someone else betrayal?
Is acting on that impulse betrayal?

Is cyber sex betrayal?

Does it need to be emotional involvement to be betrayal? What about sex with prostitutes? Is it?


Is emotional involvement enough to be classified as betrayal?

It is easy to judge - and so many times I were guilt of judging others, but reality is only the people involved in the situation will know what is worth doing to hold the relationship together. Only the partners will know their story, their commitment, their truth and what to do.