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quinta-feira, janeiro 12
TERAPIA DE GRUPO
Recebi um e mail muito simpatico do grupo das mulheres latinas, me convidando para um cafe na casa de uma das integrantes do grupo. O convite era bem simples.
Venha tomar um cafe conosco, tal dia, tal hora. Convidamos uma neuroterapeuta para vir falar conosco.
Achei o convite interessante e fui. A hora marcada era 9:30. Como eu sei que a mulherada atrasa mesmo, eu cheguei as 10:10. Fui a segunda a entrar na casa. As outras chegaram as 11:00.
Conheci varias mulheres interessantes, conversei, ri e brinquei. Ate que a neuroterapeuta comecou a "sessao". A dita conversa era na verdade, uma sessao de terapia em grupo. Em Espanhol. E eu nao falo espanhol.
Mas fiquei firme e forte. Participei, dividi meus "problemas", dei pitaco nos problemas alheios, foi otimo.
na hora de me despedir, fui com o meu velho discurso prontinho:
- Muito obrigada. Foi um prazer te conhecer...
E levei dois foras:
- A gente ja se conhece. Participamos juntas de um curso de culinaria paquistanesa...
- Ah eh! Claro!!
- Estivemos juntas na casa de Eleonor, num grupo de oracao.
Desse eu bem que me lembrei, pq fui arrastada pela Yolhi pra um grupo de oracao em Espanhol. Euzinha, que nao rezo nem em Portugues, rezei muitas ave marias em Espanhol... prova de amizade ta ai, ne Yolhi!!
Sao duas as "morais da historia".
1 - informe-se da natureza do convite que voce recebe, por que senao voce pode acabar num "evento" para o qual voce nao esta nem um pouco preparada!!
2 - comporte-se. sempre. Por que alguem que voce nao reconhece VAI se lembrar de voce com certeza!!
Yesterday I received an email really nice from the Latin Ladies Group, inviting me to join them for a coffee morning at one of the ladies' house. The invitation was very straight forward:
Come have coffee with us, this day, this hour. Neurophychologist from Venezuela will be here to talk to us.
I thought it could be a great opportunity to see people I have not seen for ages, to meet new people, to get to hear whatever this lady had to say ( because they gave no clue at all on the invitation!)
The invitation was for a 9:30 start. But if you know latin ladies, you know time is just a reference, so to be on the safe side, i arrived at 10:10. 40 minutes late.
I was the second guest to arrive - the first is the "president"of the group. Everyone else got there around 11:30.
I met many interesting women, had chats, laughed and joked. Until the neurophychologist began the "session". The "lecture"type of thing I was expecting had nothing to do with what took place in that room. It tuned out to be a group therapy session. In Spanish. And I do not speak Spanish.
But I was brave. I participated, shared my "problems", gave my opinion on other people's lives, all in a very, very broken Portunhol( mix between Portuguese and Spanish) It was great. At least for me. Not sure what the other ladies thought of my participation.
When it was time to say goodbye, I resorted my old speech :
- Thank you. It was a pleasure to meet you ...
And I simply repeated it to everyone in the room, gave hugs, kisses, the works.
But twice my strategy backfired:
- We already know each other. We were in a Pakistani cooking class together last year ...
- Oh of course! Sure! How are you doing? "everyone"well?
as we discussed in other posts, that's my imediate reaction when i have no clue who I am talking to. I just pretend I do. Shame on me!
And it happened once again, before I could reach the door:
- We met at Eleonor's house, you came for a prayer group.
And that one I remembered, 'cause I was dragged by Yolhi to a prayer group in Spanish. I do not speak Spanish and I do not pray, so you can imagine how well that went...
Yolhi will never ever be able to ask me for a bigger proof of friendship, specially if I mention I was fast asleep when she came to my house to take me there.
There are two"moral"lessons to learn from this story.
1 - find out the nature of the invitation you receive,before RSVPíng. Otherwise you might end up in a group therapy session in Spanish.
2 - behave. ALL the time. Because people WILL recognise you, even if you have no clue who they are and if you ever met them before...